Maybe it’s the insomnia that I’ve been having lately, or an epiphany. But with the influence of ‘reality’ television depicting the way us girls interact with one another, really forces me to ask myself this question; “What Do I Stand For?” I know it sounds kind of confusing, so let me elaborate.
The reason why I brought up the reality show example is because these shows further perpetuate the way women behave not only amongst each other, but in relationships, and lifestyle. It is one thing to be inspired by something, but if you feel trapped in a VH1 reality, designer bags and shoes like lifestyle, please read on. If not, I hope you know what you stand for.
Okay, so when I ask myself, “What do I stand for?”, I think of the things that are very valuable in my life. Now, I am not talking about clothes and shoes (although I love too) because they do not define me. Knowing what you stand for to me is:
- Knowing who you are
- Knowing what your gifts and talents are
- Knowing what you can offer the world
- Knowing who your circling yourself around, and if they add value to your life
- Knowing how strong of a person you are
Now, I ask you again…WHAT DO YOU STAND FOR?? (yes, I am yelling!)
Without these minimal attributes, there is a 80% chance your living in someone else’s shadow. So, start self-evaluating yourself. Are you living life in your terms? Or your parents? Friends? BF/Husbands? Are you working in the career YOU want, making YOUR own choices, or even wearing the clothes YOU like? The smallest things can mean and show a lot of what you truly stand for.
At this point, you might be asking, “So, how do I discover this?”…Well, let me offer some assistance.
**DISCLAIMER: I’m not a professional, but trust me, I been through this….
Start evaluating yourself. Figure out what it is that YOU like to do,eat, and wear. Find your passions and other things that bring you pure joy. Most importantly, start finding the significance of your surroundings. The people you associate with makes a HUGE significance! The more negative, small-minded people you hang around, will only create you to be the same. So be aware!
These are just a few things to help you figure out this question: What do YOU stand for? What’s important to you? Never be afraid to ask yourself that question! It will make a big difference for YOU in the long run 🙂
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