Quote Of The Week

Have a great week 🙂

@therealgurl

Do I Really Have To?

Do I really have to go there? Well, yes I think I do.

It seems as if people either don’t know, or don’t like to add the pleases and thank you’s in their mannerisms anymore. But I will tell you, saying please after asking for something, and thank you after getting something means more than you may think. Please and Thank You are two of the most powerful phrases in the history of manners (don’t mind the slight ignorance, I am venting.). Saying please shows your need for someone or something done for you. Thank you exudes your gratitude. When those words are lost in the form of communication, how do you think it makes one another feel?

Think about it this way, if someone asked you for a ride, and they didn’t say please, but jumped in your car anyway. Then as you reached to their destination, the person just hopped out of the car, and slammed your door (total pet peeve of mine!)*. Would you ever give that person a ride again? Heck no! So, put yourself in that situation. Do you want to leave that impression on the other person when you forget your manners? C’mon people, let us not go back to first grade on this issue. Just saying.

*Disclaimer: The scenario used in this post did not (and would be darned if it did) happen to me in real life.

Oh, and please don’t forget:

These two phrases go a very long way

@therealgurl

Ever Thought About This?

Maybe it’s the insomnia that I’ve been having lately, or an epiphany. But with the influence of ‘reality’ television depicting  the way us girls interact with one another, really forces me to ask myself this question; “What Do I Stand For?” I know it sounds kind of confusing, so let me elaborate.

The reason why I brought up the reality show example is because these shows further perpetuate the way women behave not only amongst each other, but in relationships, and lifestyle. It is one thing to be inspired by something, but if you feel  trapped in a VH1 reality, designer bags and shoes like lifestyle, please read on. If not, I hope you know what you stand for.

Okay, so when I ask myself, “What do I stand for?”, I think of the things that are very valuable in my life. Now, I am not talking about clothes and shoes (although I love too) because they do not define me. Knowing what you stand for to me is:

• Knowing who you are
• Knowing what your gifts and talents are
• Knowing what you can offer the world
• Knowing who your circling yourself around, and if they add value to your life
• Knowing how strong of a person you are

Now, I ask you again…WHAT DO YOU STAND FOR?? (yes, I am yelling!)

Without these minimal attributes, there is a 80% chance  your  living in someone else’s shadow. So, start self-evaluating yourself. Are you living life in your terms? Or your parents? Friends? BF/Husbands? Are you working in the career YOU want, making YOUR own choices, or even wearing the clothes YOU like? The smallest things can mean and show a lot of what you truly stand for.

At this point, you might be asking, “So, how do I discover this?”…Well, let me offer some assistance.

**DISCLAIMER: I’m not a professional, but trust me, I been through this….

Start evaluating yourself. Figure out what it is that YOU like to do,eat, and wear. Find your passions and other things that bring you pure joy. Most importantly, start finding the significance of your surroundings. The people you associate with makes a HUGE significance! The more negative, small-minded people you hang around, will only create you to be the same.  So be aware!

These are just a few things to help you figure out this question: What do YOU stand for? What’s important to you? Never be afraid to ask yourself that question! It will make a big difference for YOU in the long run 🙂

@therealgurl